Posts Tagged ‘forgiveness’

Nerve { Feel Everything }

Saturday, September 5th, 2009

I started a series not too long ago called Undiscovered Love. This series was to contain letters, poems, confessions, etc to my wife and/or family. My original plan was to post letters of happiness and joy and satisfaction here on YourBro, while stories and letters of forgiveness on my other site ForgiveMyLife.com. At some point along the way, I began to feel like ForgiveMyLife wasn’t really doing what I had envisioned it doing (spin-off of fmylife.com), but I still wanted to have a site full of emotion and feelings. And thus, Nerve came to being.

What is a nerve? Or a better question, what is the nervous system’s responsibility? To feel and respond. We all have nerves; our nerves keep us alive. Without our nerves, we would unknowingly destroy our bodies. In the same way, without emotions, we would unknowingly destroy our lives. If you think about it, the times you feel most alive are when your emotions are skyrocketing, good or bad (happy or sad). So why do we thicken our nerves? Why do we not trust our nerves, our emotions? They make you feel alive!

I’m re-reading “Feel” by Matthew Elliott, and man, this guy is hitting a lot of points that I wholly agree with. One thing he says that really hit me, is that one of the reasons we develop addictions, is because we no longer feel the things we should feel. We protect ourselves from pain and sorrow, or allow society’s rules to constrain our deep feelings of joy. What foolishness. God intends us to live fully, to live eternally. In our pursuit to control or restrain our passions and emotions, we are condeming ourselves to living embodiments of dullness. Wake up and live! Let your emotions feel, let them grow, let them burst, and respond to what you’re feeling! Show excitement, show joy, show pain, show anxiety! Live! Feel!

This is what Nerve is about: to express and discuss and reveal emotion. To encourage you and myself to feel, to live wildly and full of passion! The church is guilty of teaching us that emotions are evil and not trustworthy; what can we trust if not our emotions?! God is emotion, that is what indefinitely defines Him. God does not control His emotions, why should we? Draw close to God, and you will live a life full of emotion and wonder!

Let your nerves feel! Feel everything.

You can check out (and read more about) Nerve by going to nerve.yourbro.com.

The series Undiscovered Love and future posts of emotion will be on Nerve, while ForgiveMyLife.com will undergo renovation and become a depository of anonymous confessions and requests for forgiveness.

Undiscovered Love

Saturday, July 18th, 2009
This morning I woke up (at 1:30 am) with a great, well what I think is a great idea. I will be starting a series of posts called Undiscovered Love. This series will consist of letters, poems, etc that are addressed to my wife (obviously in the future, but sometimes as if present). The letters and poems that are of forgiveness, confession, compassion, and sorrow and pain will be posted on the daughter site ForgiveMyLife.com, while all others (letters of love,  joy, comfort, etc) will be posted here on YourBro. But don’t worry, you’ll see links to the articles on FML here on YourBro, so you can keep up with both.

I’m really excited about this series. Please feel free to comment on the letters and poems. I hope that this awakens something within you and/or that you understand the love of God and that we should have that same love for our spouse.

You will be able to find all posts in this series in the category Undiscovered Love. Check back soon! Or keep an eye on my Facebook…there’ll be links posted there as well.

The Gray Morning

Friday, July 3rd, 2009

My favorite time of day is the morning, between 5 and 6am, when the world is waking up. The warmth and light of the sun is present, but not yet bright enough to allow for a clear contrast of colors; everything looks gray. The grass is damp from the morning’s mist, the air still brisk. Often  I find myself looking out the window over the headboard of my bed, watching the cold of the early morning be burnt away, thinking about the troubles and pains of life, and about things I could and should do differently. The gray morning, it’s magical. It’s peaceful, but anxious. It’s sleeping, it’s alive. It’s wet, it’s dry. It’s boring, it’s interesting.

I think the gray morning is my favorite time of day, because it is symbolic of how I feel about my life. There is so much potential, so much good, so many things I can accomplish, but I’m afraid to step out of the dark, to run out the door and burn away the sin I find so much comfort in. Most of you have heard my testimony and know that I have struggled with pornography since middle school. The ugliness of this sin really is appalling, and I always tell myself after an episode that I won’t do it again, and yet I find myself the next day, turned on by the smallest thing, and yet another episode. It really is disgusting, and I feel almost inhuman afterwards. The thought of what I have just witnessed, and the affect it will have on the relationship I have with my friends and hopefully a wife and family someday, pains me to the point of not wanting to get up, for fear of participating in such an activity again. And yet I know that victory without a fight is no victory at all. It is rather a foolish manuever to avoid change, to keep things the same, to bask in the comfortability of habit and familiarity. To move forward, without actually moving. (more…)

The Most Beautiful Thing

Tuesday, April 28th, 2009
I saw the most beautiful thing this past Sunday. Let me share it with you.

I’ve been going to Status at Discovery Church on Sunday nights, and we’ve been going through this series titled “Relent & Respond.” It’s been really great, especially the last two weeks, when we’ve been talking about emotions. This past Sunday, Cole Nesmith posed a question:

How does God feel about you and what’s happening in your life?

As an exercise, he had three people come forward and share situations of their life, past and present. The testimonies were very real, detailed, and honest. The last one really touched me. Jacob told us he had been struggling with emptiness for awhile. A few years back he married his girlfriend, in an attempt to remove that feeling. Sadly, marriage could not fill the emptiness that was inside. The only thing he thought would fulfill that was more love, so he had an affair with another woman, which lasted about a month. A few months later, he had another one. He began to realize that love from a human could not fulfill his need. He confessed to his wife what he had done, she forgave him, and now they’re like three months pregnant. Beautiful.

But the thing that was really beautiful, the thing that caused me to smile and cry, was what I saw next. During the worship time following the message, Jacob and his wife were standing, arms wrapped around each other, caressing and glancing at each other, worshipping God. I could not remove my eyes from them; it was absolutely the most beautiful thing I have and probably will ever see. I was distracted from worship, but somehow, I think God was ok with that, just this once. You hear stories like that, but I witnessed it, the power of love from God, the grace from God extended to us through others. I saw a pure, loving, beautiful woman holding a dirty traitor; she loved him, and he was in repentance. Wow.

I couldn’t believe what I was actually seeing. I was so happy (and forgive me for saying this), that if the building had been blown up and I died, I would’ve been more than welcoming of death, cause I witnessed a love from God. A love I desire, to have and to give. The love from God.

That, is the most beautiful thing.

Crossing into Quito: Quieted Ambitions

Saturday, January 17th, 2009

Psalm 130

1 Out of the depths I cry to you, LORD;

2 Lord, hear my voice.
Let your ears be attentive
to my cry for mercy.

3 If you, LORD, kept a record of sins,
Lord, who could stand?

4 But with you there is forgiveness,
so that we can, with reverence, serve you.

5 I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits,
and in his word I put my hope.

6 I wait for the Lord
more than watchmen wait for the morning,
more than watchmen wait for the morning.

7 Israel, put your hope in the LORD,
for with the LORD is unfailing love
and with him is full redemption.

8 He himself will redeem Israel
from all their sins.

Psalm 131

1 My heart is not proud, LORD,
my eyes are not haughty;
I do not concern myself with great matters
or things too wonderful for me.

2 But I have calmed myself
and quieted my ambitions.
I am like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child I am content.

3 Israel, put your hope in the LORD
both now and forevermore.

 

I’ve always known that God commands us to be still before Him, to fall down to our knees in His presence. I knew it was necessary, a vital part to a Christian’s life; I even encouraged others to have their quiet time before God. And yet, it was so hard for me, to take that time out of my day, to just stop everything, and do nothing but wait on God. In Quito, the message in all the sermons was this: wait on God.

In our lives, we feel insignificant, like we’re not doing our part, if we’re not busy. If we’re waking up and and we’ve got enough time for breakfast, we’re not living as we should. If during our lunch break we have enough time to meet to pray with a friend, we’re not taking advantage of our time. What a twisted sense of mind! Look at verse two of Psalm 131.

But I have calmed myself and quieted my ambitions. I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am content.

Hah, be content, with resting? Be content, with just sitting? Yes people! Be content to be quiet, to not be doing anything. Some of you may say “but God doesn’t want us to be idle,” and that is true. But look at what you’re saying: God would rather me be active in my life, than me spend time with Him. Hello! Something I learned in Quito, is that God is not a missional God, as we often paint Him; He is rather, a personal God. God’s only command for us, God’s only purpose for us, is that we follow Him, that we be personal with Him. Yes, God does love action, and He loves missions and support missions, but only for those who are following Him. Missions without the blessing of God is work for the enemy.  No matter how many people you may “save,” if you were not having quality, dedicated, quiet time with God, it is all for naught. It is useless. I think that is where we get the idea of “planting a seed” in someone’s life. We’re too busy, too active, to tend to the seed: to water it, to pull weeds, to guard it from weather, to help it grow strong. We’ve become content with simply telling someone about God, and then moving on with our life, with pursuing our ambitions. Shut your ambitions up! Who cares what your ambitions?! No one, but you, and maybe your parents. The only ambition that matters, is an ambition given by God.

The American dream, is folly. Get an education, get a career, get a family, get a house, retire. What a boring life! What if it looked like this? Get an education, get a family, go overseas, go do charity work, go build a church, go save lives, and never retire. Which life is fuller? Living in Quito, I felt like I was alive; living in America is so easy, so comfortable, so routine, that I feel partially dead. Life here is so mundane, so expected, so easy, that it’s become almost robotic, and I hate this life. Yes it’s easy, and we all love to do what’s easy; but, I want a life that is full of service, of love, and of dedication. That’s the life that God offers. If we will destroy our own ambitions, and follow God, our lives will be so much better, that we won’t even be able to describe it.

So how can you get to that place, where you close out your own ambitions, and surrender yourself to God? Cry out to Him. Ask Him for forgiveness. Serve Him with reverence. Wait on Him, and put your hope in His word. Simple, people. God is not complicated; He doesn’t give us situations for us to try and figure out. What He does give us, is the opportunity, to show Him our dedication, either to ourselves, or to Him. Put aside yourself, and just like air rushing into a vacuum, so God will rush into you. Really people, it’s true; I and my other 7 companions to Quito are examples, it does happen.

Calm yourself and quiet your ambitions. Like a weaned child, like a child nursing, be content, and put your hope in the Lord, both now and forever. Be still, and know that He is God. Surrender all to Him, and your life will be alive! His word promises that. Try it, and if you’re not satisfied, you’re serving the wrong god. Serve the right God with all your being, and you will never leave the life He has for you. Guaranteed.

Love you all. Praying for you. Your bro.